http://bible.com/59/MAT19.6.ESV “So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Craig Groschel, pastor of Life Church.tv in Oklahoma, did a series on marriage a few years back that has stuck with me. One of the things he said was that a husband and wife were like two sheets of paper that become glued together through marriage. In this union, they do not loose the writing on the papers, but instead become stronger. Yet when trying to separate the papers, it is nearly impossible to do without ripping, shredding, and destroying the two pages.
Sometimes, we loose our identies in our families. Oh, you are so and so’s wife. Or you are someone’s mom. And we often feel trapped leading to the thinking that if we divorce we can find that freedom again. A person might eventally have freedom, but is it what he or she really wanted? Do the exes still carry on traits of each other because they became one?
Shouldn’t marriage be a safe haven for you to grow in your identity as a person who is a wife, mother, lover, friend, banker, baker, and candle-stick maker? I implore us to not give up on our marriages, but rather find ways of being ourselves and learning how to grow and bond together. After all, we made vows before God and man. That shouldn’t be taken lightly.